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    <description>Honest, practical writing on dating to marry after 30 — after divorce, after loss, and after too many swipes.</description>
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    <lastBuildDate>Mon, 07 Sep 2026 08:05:36 GMT</lastBuildDate>
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      <title><![CDATA[What to look for in a life partner (and what to stop looking for)]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 01 Sep 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[The qualities that actually predict a good marriage according to decades of relationship research — and the ones that dominate dating profiles but predict nothing. A practical way to rebuild your list at 30, 40 or 50.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[How to talk about your marriage timeline without scaring anyone (including yourself)]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Fri, 28 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[Why “when do you want to get married?” is the most avoided question in serious dating, how to raise it on a first date without it feeling like an ultimatum, what to do when timelines differ, and why the right person will be relieved you asked.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Dating app fatigue: why you are exhausted, and what to do instead of quitting]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 25 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[The psychology behind dating-app burnout — variable rewards, choice overload, ghosting, the paradox of the infinite feed — and a practical reset for people who still want to meet someone.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Is it too late to find love after 40? What the numbers — and our members — say]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[The honest answer to the question people over 40 type into search bars at midnight: no, it is not too late. Here is why the maths is better than you think, what actually changes, and how to date at 40+ without pretending to be 28.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[How to know if someone is serious about marriage: 9 signs and 6 tells]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Fri, 14 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[The behaviours that separate people who genuinely want to marry from people who say they do — plus the polite ways to check, and the point at which you should stop guessing and ask.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Finding love again after losing a spouse: a gentle, practical guide]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 11 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[For widows and widowers wondering whether — and how — to date again. On timing, guilt, family, what to say about your late spouse, and why loving again is not forgetting.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Telling your family you are dating again: scripts for parents, children and in-laws]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[How to tell an Indian (or any traditional) family that you are dating after divorce or loss — when to say it, what to say, how to handle the first reaction, and why you are informing, not asking.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Dating after divorce: how to start again without starting over]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 04 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[A grounded guide to dating after divorce — knowing when you’re ready, what to say about your past, how to handle kids and family, and why the second time can be the honest one.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Second marriage in India: what nobody tells you (and what actually helps)]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 28 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[The unspoken rules around remarriage in India — the matrimony “discount”, the family committee, the questions about kids and property — and how a new generation is quietly rewriting them.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Dating with kids: when to tell a match, when to tell your children, and how]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 21 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[A practical guide for single parents dating to marry — putting kids on your profile, talking about custody early, introducing a partner to your children, and protecting everyone’s heart in the process.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Red flags in serious dating: the 14 that matter when marriage is the goal]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[Not the internet’s list of quirks — the actual warning signs that predict an unhappy marriage: contempt, control, dishonesty about the basics, and the ones specific to dating after 30.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Dealing with family pressure to marry (without giving in or blowing up)]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 09 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[For singles over 28 whose parents have started “looking”: why the pressure feels the way it does, how to hold your line without a fight, what to offer instead of a biodata, and how to turn your family from a deadline into an ally.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[How to date online without your colleagues, relatives or ex finding out]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Fri, 03 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[A privacy playbook for people with a reputation to protect — teachers, doctors, managers, public figures, the recently separated — covering photos, names, contact hiding, blur, incognito, screenshots and what to do if someone finds you anyway.]]></description>
      <category>safety</category>
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      <title><![CDATA[Love marriage vs arranged marriage: the third way most Indians over 30 actually want]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 30 Jun 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[The old binary — fall in love by accident or let your family pick — no longer fits a generation that runs its own life. Here is the third option: choosing a partner with marriage intent, on your own terms, with your family invited rather than in charge.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Romance scams: how to spot them in the first week, and what to do if you already sent money]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[The exact playbook romance scammers use on people over 35 — the profile, the pace, the “job”, the emergency — with the four rules that make you unscammable and the steps to take if you have already been targeted.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Dating in your 30s: what changes, what doesn’t, and how to use it]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 16 Jun 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[An honest map of dating after 30 — the shrinking social circle, the sharper clarity, the different questions, the better odds in the right room — and a practical playbook for doing it well instead of doing it like you did at 25.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Blind Love: why we hide photos for a day, and what happens when we do]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 09 Jun 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[Inside Otterly’s Blind Love feature — one conversation a day with photos hidden. The research on appearance bias in dating, what members report when faces come second, and how to make the most of a blind conversation.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Long distance when you are dating to marry: NRIs, relocation and the “who moves” conversation]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 26 May 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[For singles on a global app: how to date across cities and countries when the goal is marriage — the questions to settle before feelings do, how to meet, the visa and family realities for NRIs, and when distance is a dealbreaker rather than a detail.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Why Otterly has no swiping: the psychology behind requests, notes and a daily limit]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 19 May 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[The design decisions behind Otterly — why we removed the swipe, why every request can carry a note, why you get only a handful a day, and what the research on choice, effort and reciprocity says about finding a life partner.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Why we refund your Premium (and sponsor your wedding) when you marry someone you met on Otterly]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 28 Apr 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
      <description><![CDATA[The business logic and the belief behind Otterly’s most unusual policy: if you marry a match, we give your subscription money back and contribute to the wedding. Here is why an app would want its best customers to leave.]]></description>
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